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An assumption often accompanies the question, and it annoys me to no end.

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I don't find it unsuitable Looking for friendly ladies asked by our consensual sexual partners, who pose the query for a different set of reasons, though I'll touch on that. I'm talking about the straight couple who ask in private after meeting my boyfriend and me; the female acquaintance who Sexy versbttm wanted hung twins 4 woman or couple while brazenly asking us over cocktails; a gaggle of gossiping gays who speculate behind closed doors.

And now, I'm explicitly aling out a writer who pontificated on the subject in a repugnant political thought piece.

Is he a top or a bottom? Last week, Dale Peck wrote an aggressive op-ed about Democratic-hopeful Pete Buttigieg that was published and Swingers party in Honolulu1 taken down from The New Republic's website after widespread criticism.

'Is He a Top or a Bottom?'

Peck, a literary critic, didn't Car dating love relationship Ponce Puerto Rico traffic ask the question of South Bend's openly gay mayor. He assumed. I get a definite top-by-default vibe from [Buttigieg], which is to say that I bet he thinks about getting fucked but is too uptight to do it.

I'm adept at brushing off homophobic rhetoric with the wave of my fairy wand. But Dale Peck, a gay man himself, triggered the deep-rooted, self-loathing homophobe bred in me by American culture.

Now, with a gay man running for the country's highest office, it's time to expel the demon and set the record straight. Well, maybe not straight. Unless you plan to visit the consensual fornication station with Mayor Pete, me, or any other gay man you meet, what we do with or dicks and asses is none of your business. The anecdotes of our private sex lives are not fodder for your homoerotic fantasy football leagues. If you are not or do not intend to be a gay man's sexual partner, be honest with.

When you ask if he's a top or a bottom, what are Beautiful wants casual sex Shepparton-Mooroopna really asking?

Is he the man or the woman in the relationship? Is he masculine or feminine? Is he powerful or weak? Does his sex life fit into the heteronormative worldview in which I participate?

If this logic doesn't apply and you never ask these questions, you go, Glen Coco! You're a better person than Beautiful adult seeking friendship Montgomery am. If it does, you're not. But the internal hard drive storing our antiquated ideas about sexual roles needs an update.

Let's toss away those sex-ed floppy discs created by our grandd and replace them with Wives want hot sex Ulysses. First, the body's erogenous zones don't have a sexual identity. They have nerve endings that respond to touch. Newsflash, fellas — straight or gay, we all have a G-spot in our buttholes. It's called the prostate.

If your sexual partner is skilled and patient enough to find it and you don't have some mental block against booty stuff, getting a prostate massage feels fantastic. You know what else? The gateway to the prostate has a boat-load of nerve endings that respond favorably to physical contact.

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Probing around your basement can feel great regardless of the labels you use to pigeon hole your sexual self. Get into it, literally.

Secondly, top is not synonymous with masculine and bottom is not synonymous with feminine. Bottoming does not make you girly, nor does it make you the equivalent of a s housewife in your romantic relationships. It makes you human. Welcome to the club! Likewise, topping makes you no more of a masculine man than the dude who sticks a dildo up Houghton lake heights MI wife swapping rear.

You can ride a tractor-trailer, shoot a gun, religiously watch football on Sundays with your girlfriend and thoroughly enjoy anal sex as the penetrated partner. Stuffing a gay man into a top or bottom box limits the full breadth of their sexuality.

Other men may label themselves as versatile, versatile tops, versatile bottoms, or whatever they want on any given day. Their choice should Single wife wants nsa Fresno free from the limitations imposed by intrusive questions.

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Do not attempt to fit our sexual roles into heteronormative standards, and do not ask us to choose a side in your binary world. We may have vanilla missionary-style sex or engage in wild dom-sub roleplay. The players on our baseball teams are Sexy looking casual sex Flint of both pitching and catching.

And now, an addendum for gay men who pose this question as a make-it-or-break-it to potential partners. Stop should-ing all over yourself! Life is not scripted. Let your body love what it loves, and give yourself the freedom to choose and change your preferences as you and your partner see fit.

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Lonely mom ready sex web cam people can have equally flexible roles in their sexual relationships. The penetrated partner is not necessarily weak, nor is the person doing the penetrating strong. Women can run the sexual show without inserting anything into a man.

Likewise, a bottom can boss a top with the command of a high-ranking army official. Sexual power play is a state of mind unrelated to our genitalia and the way we use. If someone's genitalia aligns with your preconceived notions of sex, gender, and sexual position, that's super. But remember, our world is filled with equally super dominant bottoms, sissy tops, assertive straight women who love to get fucked, and subservient straight men who love to do the fucking.

They come in all shapes, sizes, creeds, and colors. Moreover, the roles people play in the Ladies want nsa Jamestown Ohio 45335 don't always line up with how those people present in plain clothes. Do not assume there will always be a correlation. I get a definite top-by-default vibe from him His hips do not swish when he walks, and he avoids gesticulating with limp wrists.

These are a few of the facts we know about Pete Buttigieg, and the common denominators Peck must be using to Ladies want nsa NY Warwick 10990 him as a top.

Mind you, this is a label being reinforced Can want 2 take a sweetie on a date a fellow gay man.

Peck implies that although the mayor of South Bend is top-presenting, he might as well have bottom Discreet hung 4 married fem written on his forehead in glitter. According to Peck, the mayor is also unfit to be president. These thoughts Naked Shirleysburg women xxx side-by-side in the same paragraph.

Buttigieg is so manly he must be a top, not manly enough to take a dick, and as Peck argues, unfit to park his prostate on Pennsylvania Avenue until he gets all the gay sex out of his.

Remember, someone at The New Republic had to green light the article. All of this leaves me confused. Is your belief in the sexual binary really that strong? Are we going to bottom shame our fellow gays all the way to the top of Capitol Hill? And if this is how you feel about gay men who may or may not be intrigued by bottoming, what do you think about women who are naturally the receptive partners in their sexual relationships?

If women don't prove they're dom-top peggers only, is there even room for them in the good old boys' club of American politics? Why is no one asking these questions of the straight men running for office? Remember, sodomy laws were only deemed unconstitutional in Women constantly fight against legislation that controls their bodies today.

Can you imagine the uproar if someone asked how Joe Biden likes to bang? What Bernie Sanders does in bed?

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If Cory Booker likes butt stuff? If you want Martinsville NJ bi horney housewifes talk to me or any other gay man about how we fuck, tread lightly.

Examine how you fuck instead. Are you should-ing all over your possibilities for sexual pleasure with antiquated ideologies? Are you allowing yourself to explore the total wonder of your human body?

And whatever you do, please leave Pete Buttigieg out of it. John Garry is a NYC-based travel writer, performer, and actor. Find out more about Garry at his website or follow him on Instagram tinyplanettravel.